"In my zeal to be a 'real woman', I was once prepared to do anything and everything to pass as cisgender—banking my identity not on self acceptance, but on being accepted by everybody else. "
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"Is there a stereotype threat at play, where queer women don't want to have these discussions for fear that straight people will laugh and say 'told you so' at our attempts to exist outside of their society?"...